Moms' prospective over college scandal
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The massive college admissions scam didn’t really catch us all by surprise but it definitely engaged reactions among students and parents, the privileged and the less privileged.

What are parents to make of all this? What are mothers of future college students thinking? We asked some of them and here are the answers.


Pay and Get in – Admission isn’t Free

“Money buys you everything, even your college degree? What has happened to our society these days? With the recent scandal that broke out over the past few days on some rich and famous buying their children, literally buying, a place in top Ivy League universities has proven yet again we live in a BS world. It really makes you think if money can truly buy everything, including your kid’s education, what else cannot be bought?
For kids that do not have privilege as such, what would they do? This shows how superficial our system is. Is being diligent still relevant? While all you really need is a rich mommy or daddy to help you graduate. Our society is already broken as it is, and top it of with greed, our future is bleak indeed. I feel nothing but fear for my kids. I fear that they fear. We live in one of the best countries in the world, but we have the most absolute broken system that’s only driven by greed. I hope someday there’s the silver lining somewhere and that our kids can be confident again with the system, face the future without any impartiality.” Amy, Mom of 2

The broken system of the mom’s shield

“This scandal shows how off-course the point of college has drifted. It shows how rigged the system is and how it can have a greater impact on our children.
Many parents nowadays have become far more protective over their offspring, leading them to expect their help when they have to achieve a goal. Whether it’s fixing a bad grade on a math test, being recruited to play on a team or being admitted to college, MOM can fix it.
What are the kids to make of all this? They will live their life through high school and college in a bubble where mom’s wings are there ready to shield them from rejection and adversity. What will happen to them once they are out? How will they be able to relate with the other adults who actually fought for themselves, who dealt with rejections and grew from adversity?
Furthermore, if parents are willing to pay hundreds of thousands to give their children access to IVY league schools, they automatically create an intrinsic correlation between prestige and potential where teenagers will measure their human value according to where they’ve been accepted, which is far away from reality. College won’t define their existence, it will shape it and mold it keeping their essence intact. Maybe this scandal is just what we needed to wake up as parents and rethink the model we should really follow to help our children become the best version of themselves.” Erika, 32

The Moms' Prospective on the Ivy League Scandal
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The Society of Shortcuts

“Honestly not surprised.
The Ivy League concept is already a questionable system for what it represents. Good
education should be accessible for everyone and stating that those colleges are the best that the United States can offer is wrong to begin with.
We live in a society where shortcuts are allowed if you’re smart enough not to get caught.
We live in a society where even a Kylie Jenner is considered by Forbes the youngest self-made billionaire when she wouldn’t be known if her mother didn’t put her in an arguable tv show to be seen by the whole Country.
Honestly, these parents probably didn’t do anything different than what they’ve been told they could do. What they don’t understand is that their kids will never learn the satisfaction of accomplishing something they’ve worked really hard for. Instead, they will get bored easily to everything, even of their own face, to the point where they change it just because they can.
Have you read about the Pew Research Center reported from a survey of U.S. teens?
Teens find anxiety and depression issues more important that drug abuse or poverty. Parents, can you guess where this result comes from?
I wish I could estrange my kids from this reality, but as mom, I could only teach the values that have been lost in this society and hope that they’ll be strong enough not to get corrupted.” Malia, 31

A disgusting example of privilege

“The recent ivy league college admission scandal is a disgusting example of privilege. It’s frustrating to see what wealthy people can get away with and I’m glad has come to light. It’s no secret that parents want the best for their children, but this is not the way to do it. These parents are not teaching their kids any morals or values, they are simply reinforcing the status that they didn’t even earn. It is so unfair to all those students who have worked hard to earn their place at these elite schools the right way.” Cristina